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Is it Bribery or Incentives? |
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Wednesday, 24 February 2010 20:07 |
- An incentive is pro-active. In the same setting it would go like this: "When we go into the store, I expect you to keep your hands to yourself. If you choose not to take things off of the shelves, I will allow you to choose a favorite cereal that we will buy." In this case, the child will be rewarded for staying in the stated boundary.
- Being pro-active with boundaries allows the child the opportunity to make a good choice and receive the incentive. This can bolster confidence and increase positive independence.
- If you are having difficulty convincing your older child why your suggestions/boundaries have been set, take time to explain. "I know that you want to do well in your classes this semester. I also know you enjoy spending time on Facebook and texting with your friends. To get the kinds of grades you want to get, you need to devote time to your homework before you go online." The incentive is good grades.
- When you're offering an incentive to your child, it must be appealing. Be a student of your child to determine his form of "currency."
- Avoid the bribery. "If you get off that computer right now and finish your homework I'll let you stay out an extra half hour on Saturday night."
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