While 73 percent of parents assume they are connecting with their teenage children, only 45 percent of high school girls agree that their parents know what's really going on in their lives. So...how can parents improve that connection?

1.     Is there a key to connecting with teenagers?

• If I had to limit myself to one answer, it would be listening.
• Family household conversations have decreased dramatically in the last decade.
• It's tough to connect if there are no conversations.

What do parent need to know? A study conducted at Harvard School of Public Health indicated that 1 in 5 high school girls has been a victim of dating abuse.  It is a serious issue that parents need to be aware of.

• 1. Is it possible that the parents of a young woman involved in dating abuse are not aware that this is happening to their daughter?
  • That's what research shows...80 plus percent of parents don't even acknowledge teen dating violence as an issue.
  • The majority of parents have never discussed this with their child
  • Few parents are aware of any teenagers who have been physically assaulted by someone they were dating.

After raising three sons, it is quite a treat (and very different) to be blessed with grandgirls.  Katelyn Ann was born on April 14. Aaron, Kristin and big sister Jenna Ruth welcomed her into the family.  That makes four sweet little girls and counting...:)

1.     What important question do parents need to ask if they are having difficulty with the idea of children entertaining themselves?

• Parents need to ask the question, am I involved in entertaining my children because they need me, or is it because I need them.

2.     How different does this look at different ages?

• Babies -- Give then small intervals of independent time, allowing your child to choose from several age appropriate toys.
• Toddlers -- This is when the imagination is developing.  Help your child begin the play process. Stay connected but allow independent play.
• Preschoolers -- Kids this age are capable of abstract imagination.  Be available while they play, but do not dominate.